A mature love...
A psychologist once wrote,
a mature love affair must be regarded as four stages,
namely:
- Codependent 共存
- Counter-dependent 反依赖
- Independent 独立
-Interdependent 相互依存
The first stage: Co-dependent
This is love period,
regardless of when and where lovers always want to be stuck together.
The second stage: Counter-dependence
Until the mood stabilizers,
there will be one want to have more of their time to do what he/ she want to,
then the partner will begin to feel cold.
The third stage: Independent
This is a continuation of the second phase,
demand more independence and time.
The fourth stage: Interdependent
At this time, he / she has become the closest person of you.
Your help each other, and together create the life of your own.
You will not tie down him/her , but grow together.
However, most of the people can not pass the second and third stage,
and choose to breaking up, this is very unfortunate.
Many things will be fine as long as good communication,
no arrogant, not to think too much, mutual trust is necessary,
so that the second and third phases of the time will be shortened.
Love after a period of time,
couples will gradually become similar.
From
different backgrounds,
different personalities,
different lifestyles,
and different looks.
Once in love with each other,
you will find your eyes a little like his eyes, his smile a bit like your smile.
The pace of your walk and tone of voice is also somewhat similar,
Turns out that we will become the one we love.
Perhaps at first,
he / she is not your idea of an ideal lover,
But in fact, unconsciously we had change ourselves.
We will gradually become the ideal lover of each other,
this change is definitely not intentional.
When two people love for a long time,
each other's temperament has become similiar.
One day,
we are surprised to find that he / she has become
the ideal lover that you want!
Love makes you slowly lose your own,
but why would you feel happy?
Because when you lose yourself,
but he/she has put up a smile on your face!
Happiness is simple,
a simple people tend to be happy.
True love does not give up easily.
I edited this photo, and I like these photos..
Because I hope I have this loving life like them ~
